There are no menial jobs, only menial attitudes.

There are no menial jobs, only menial attitudes. – William J. Brennan, Jr.

Do you help when it is needed, or do you say "It's not my job, I didn't make the mess!" ?

Do you say “It’s not my job, I didn’t make the mess!” or do you pitch in and help clean up?

What does that mean?
Have you ever thought, or heard someone say, that a job is beneath them? It could be cleaning an icky mess, or some other form of manual labor. It might be something that is considered beneath their station, or perhaps they have ‘people’ to take care of that.

Those are examples of menial attitudes. Attitudes that say the person is too important to do such a lowly task. It says that it is the job of someone else, and implies that the designated person is somehow less for that assignment. And avoiding that ‘being less’ is the whole point, right?

Jobs are simply jobs. Someone has to do them. Whether it’s changing your baby’s diaper or latrine duty, it has to be done. Arguing with others in the house regarding who was next in rotation to do the task isn’t going to get anything accomplished, is it?

If we aren’t careful, we will get focused on ourselves, or on the person we believe is not doing their ‘fair share’ and lose the big picture. Fortunately, most babies are quite capable of refocusing our attention on the problem at hand, regardless of our distractions. Do the job!

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In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.

In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing. – Mignon McLaughlin

This is a moment you could point to and always say "remember when?" All because you shared it with your best friends.

This is a moment you could point to and always say “remember when?” All because you shared it with your best friends. And what better way is there to spend time?

What does that mean?
It means love is Non-Euclidean (that’s a math joke, for those who don’t get the reference). That said, what the quote is talking about is how love doesn’t follow the normal rules of mathematics.

One plus one should equal two, but the quote says that it equals everything. For those who have been head-over-heels in love, this part of the quote makes perfect sense. When you’re apart, all you think of is being together again. And when you are together, it truly feels like you have everything.

The other half, two minus one, should equal one. But the quote says that it equals nothing. Again, for those who have been head-over-heels in love, this part of the quote makes perfect sense. It’s the exact opposite of the prior equation. When you’re apart, nothing is any good anymore.

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All the world’s a stage and all the men and women merely players.

All the world’s a stage & all the men and women merely players. – William Shakespeare

A youth production of "Midsummer Night's Dream." How does the guy describe the part he played?

A youth production of “Midsummer Night’s Dream.” How does the guy describe the part he played? Nick Bottom, the jackass? Sometimes the Bard was subtle with the roles.

What does that mean?
This is one of the more famous quotes of the Bard. It is said by Jaques: “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. They have their exits and their entrances, and one man in his time plays many parts…” in the play As You Like It, Act II, sc. vii.

This as an interesting comparison between actors in their plays, and the rest of us in our lives. Actors will play different parts in different plays throughout their careers. Sometimes they will play multiple parts in the same play.

Similarly, we have different roles in our lives. At work or at school, in social situations, or with family and friends. We might be the lead at school, but a lesser player in the family. You might be the lead at home, but a lesser player at work.

Then we have the roles of parents to our children, as children to our parents, educators to our children (or parents, if it’s a tech gadget, right?), and so many others. Even at work, we might be a helper on one project, and the lead on another. Many parts indeed.

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Love in your heart isn’t put there to stay. Love isn’t love till you give it away.

Love in your heart isn’t put there to stay. Love isn’t love till you give it away. – Oscar Hammerstein II

This bell is pretty to look at, but it exists to be rung.

This bell is pretty to look at, but it exists to be rung.

What does that mean?
This is another Twitter-shortened quote. The whole quote is as follows: “A bell is not a bell till you ring it. A song is not a song till you sing it. Love in your heart isn’t put there to stay. Love isn’t love till you give it away.”

It is said that this quote is from a hand-written inspirational note passed to the young actress portraying Maria in the play The Sound of Music. There is other information saying that the lyrics show up in the stage play in the reprise of the song “Sixteen Going on Seventeen” but omitted from the film.

No matter what the actual origin of the words, they’re incredibly powerful. Going from the longer version of the quote, this quote is all about the action, rather than the potential. A bell has the potential to ring, but is just a lump of inert metal until you ring it.

Similarly, a song is just notes and words on paper. For it to fully manifest itself, it must be sung. The quote finishes with applying the same pattern to love. It’s there, inert, in your heart. It only becomes real when you take action, and give it away.

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Refraining from harm, not out of fear, but out of concern for others, their well-being and out of respect is non-violence.

Refraining from harm, not out of fear, but out of concern for others, their well-being and out of respect is non-violence. – Dalai Lama

Yeah, he could have opened the door himself, but you showed some respect.

Yeah, he could have opened the door himself, but you showed some respect.

What does that mean?
I like this quote as it is a great way of defining non-violence. Yes, it’s a lack of violence, but why? That’s where this quote shines. It discusses refraining from harming others for four reasons.

The first is specifically stated that non-violence is not a path taken out of fear. Instead, the quote continues, it is defined as something done out of concern for others, as violence, in general isn’t something that others usually enjoy.

It then specifically mentions being non-violent for the well-being of others. That seems pretty logical, as violence is rarely good for their well-being, right? It finishes by mentioning respect. Can you both be violent and respectful at the same time? I do most seriously doubt it.

Non-violence is, according to this quote, something we do because we want to, and because we care for and respect our fellow human beings. Not out of fear, or any other negative emotion.

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He who has great power should use it lightly.

He who has great power should use it lightly.  ~ Seneca

Are you gentle, or do you abuse your power?

Are you gentle, or do you abuse your power? How would you like to be remembered?

What does that mean?
Consider what the opposite would be like. Imagine a ruler who ruled with an iron fist, what would that be like? Even at the level of a city or town council, that’s not going to work out very will, will it?

History is full of examples of those with great power using it with great relish and enthusiasm. Some started out being good, but even they often end up being a little heavy handed. And the ones who started out with enthusiasm rarely got any better.

At the smallest level is the personal relationship, and family. Consider what harm could be done by using, or more precisely abusing, your power. Perhaps you’ve been in a relationship like that, or have seen something like that. It’s not good, is it? Better to be gentle, to use your power lightly.

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If you put your happiness in temporary things – your happiness will be temporary.

If you put your happiness in temporary things – your happiness will be temporary. – Nick Vujicic

Mmmmm! A quart of milk and I'll be happy for at least 15 minutes.

Mmmm! With a plate of cookies and a quart of milk, I’ll be happy for at least 15 minutes.

What does that mean?
There are things in our lives that last a long time. Then there are things like cookies. Consider my favorite kind, the chocolate chip cookie. Having a couple (or a couple dozen) cookies will make you happy. Perhaps even very happy. But that form of happiness, like the cookies, will be a very short lived thing.

This quote warns us against depending on the fleeting things of life for our happiness. Whether that’s a night out drinking, or an afternoon of socializing, the event doesn’t last. And, as the quote says, neither will the happiness you had in the moment.

The quote implies that the same pattern holds true at the opposite end of the scale. If we put our happiness in things that last, our happiness will also last. So far, I have found that this holds true for me, how about you? How well have the lasting things done for providing lasting happiness?

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Just think of the tragedy of teaching children not to doubt.

Just think of the tragedy of teaching children not to doubt. – Clarence Darrow

What do you mean, where have I been?

Why I’ve been out with the guys, dear. What do you mean, you doubt that?

What does that mean?
Imagine a situation where children don’t ever doubt an adult. All is well, until that adult is a predator, right? Yes, there are times when a child should listen without question or doubt to what an adult says, but only certain adults.

But far more important, what will happen to a child who was raised to never consider what was said, to never doubt or question what they are told, when they grow up? When and how will they acquire these critical skills?

Without them, they will be fleeced by anyone and everyone with fewer scruples. They will believe the most outrageous lies. They will be taken in by any and every story of woe told to them. They will be unable to properly sort out fact from fiction, and this will lead them into all kinds of trouble.

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Not to know is bad; not to wish to know is worse.

Not to know is bad; not to wish to know is worse. – African Proverb

If this was your friend or family member, would you know if they needed help, or just some time to think? Would you want to know?

If this was your friend or family member, would you know if they needed help, or just some time to think? Would you want to know? Would you be willing to ask?

What does that mean?
This quote talks about curiosity, knowledge, and the lack of either. It is one thing to not know. That can be fixed with a little effort and a little curiosity. For those who are insatiably curious, this isn’t hard.

For those with internet connections or access to local experts, it is also fairly easy to find out. You ask questions, and then you know. But the quote discusses a third possibility, one which it states is even worse than not knowing something.

This is the lack of curiosity. True, you don’t have to know the details of the Otto cycle, and how it applies to the internal combustion engine, to drive a car. And many people really don’t care to know. But in other parts of your life, it could be a bit more trouble.

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Men become wise just as they become rich, more by what they save than by what they receive.

Men become wise just as they become rich, more by what they save than by what they receive. – Wilbur Wright

We all know that eating too much isn't good for us. But are we wise enough to act on that knowledge?

We all know that eating too much isn’t good for us. But are we wise enough to act on that knowledge? We all receive wisdom, but what do we save, and what to we do with it?

What does that mean?
This quote makes an interesting analogy between riches and wisdom. The quote says we become wise in the same manner as we become rich. How do we become rich? The tweet says by saving, rather than just receiving.

By that, the quote means that we all have money which comes to us, the money we receive. What we save of that money is how we grow rich. While there are many other ways to grow your money, this is a valid and basic method, and very useful for the second part of the quote.

The point of the quote is that the same method applies to becoming wise. Wisdom is all around us. It comes to us every day. But what is important is if we recognize it, and then save it. By keeping that bit of wisdom, we become more wise, and I believe that is the point of the quote.

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The challenge today is to convince people of the value of truth, honesty, compassion and a concern for others.

The challenge today is to convince people of the value of truth, honesty, compassion and a concern for others. – Dalai Lama

Teaching compassion and concern for others is best done early in life, when there are no old habits to break.

Teaching compassion and concern for others is best done early in life, when there are no old habits to break. It is the same with truth and honesty. Otherwise, it will be a challenge.

What does that mean?
And that is quite the challenge. Many people, too many in my opinion, place themselves and their advantage first. They will lie and walk away from honesty in order to gain an advantage. They will say or do what they think will play on your compassion and concern in order to gain an advantage.

While on one hand, I consider these actions deplorable, I also find them very sad. Sad because these people have been reduced to the point where they believe that the only chance they have in life is to lie, cheat or steal. That can’t be a happy place to live, can it?

And yes, it will be a challenge. These people have developed a belief system which supports these actions, and have become comfortable in using these tactics and methods.

Convincing them that truth is a better path, even if it places you at a disadvantage, that’s going to be a hard sell. It will be no easier with compassion, given to others, rather than taken from others.

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Every man prefers belief to the exercise of judgment.

Every man prefers belief to the exercise of judgment. – Seneca

This is an interesting argument, being that they are having it with themselves. Do you exercise your judgement when you do things, or do you just go with what you feel or believe?

An argument, in triplicate. Do you exercise your judgement when you do things, or do you just go with something easy, what you feel or what you believe?

What does that mean?
In short, this quote is saying that humans are basically lazy. That is simply the baseline for the human condition. Some are more so than others, and we all have our favorite topics on which we think. But the truth is we tend to lean more on our beliefs than on our thinking.

To properly exercise one’s judgement, we have to get facts, review our prior positions, and integrate the new data with what we know. We have to take the time to deal with things that are different or don’t fit, and determine if the data is flawed, or if our position is wrong, and make adjustments.

Whew! That was tiring to write about. But if you believe, you simply state what you believe, regardless of what the facts say. There is a lot of that on both sides of many modern arguments. Neither side is swayed by facts, as they have already made up their mind, and have turned that decision into a belief.

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Failure can be the key to Success… if you learn from it!

Failure can be the key to Success… if you learn from it! – Tony Robbins and here

"That didn't end well!" What did you learn from what went poorly and what went well?

“That didn’t end well!” What did you learn from what went poorly and what went well? You can try again, but you’re gonna need a new rocket!

What does that mean?
This is a case where I have shortened the tweet. The full tweet is “Failure can be the key to Success… if you learn from it! Angry Birds was Rovio’s 52nd game… 51 misses before they hit the bulls-eye!

Think about it. Have you ever played a game where you lost even ten times in a row and went ahead and tried the eleventh time? Can you think of anything you have tried ten times, and failed each time? Even a dry spell of ten times?

If you aren’t good at sports, you might drop ten passes, strike out ten times, or miss ten baskets. That is ten times, in a row. But how many get to fifty and still are willing to try one more time, or in this case, two more times?

If you keep doing the exact same thing, you may have a much longer streak than fifty. If, on the other hand, you try something different in each new attempt, and learn from each failure, you will have a hard time failing ten times in a row, much less fifty!

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Not everybody can be famous. But everybody can be great, because greatness is determined by service.

Not everybody can be famous. But everybody can be great, because greatness is determined by service. – Martin Luther King, Jr

It's only fitting that on the NBA day of service, the guy gets the top of his head cropped. But he is being great because of his service.

It’s only fitting that on the NBA day of service, the tall guy gets the top of his head cropped. But he is being great because of his service. What can you do to help others?

What does that mean?
A slightly longer version is as follows: “Not everybody can be famous but everybody can be great because greatness is determined by service… You only need a heart full of grace and a soul generated by love.”

Think about that for a moment. We can’t all be famous, not in the traditional sense. For if we were all famous, famous would be the new normal, and we’d be chasing something else. To be famous is to be recognized as someone special, for whatever reason.

However, the quote says we can all be great. It says that greatness can be achieved by service. I would presume service to others, or to mankind. The longer version finishes with a recommendation for a heart full of grace and a soul made of love.

That is kind of poetic, but I like it. Service to others is certainly easier when your heart and soul are full of grace and love. And given what is going on in the lives of so many ‘famous’ people, I think I’d much rather work on being great, not on being famous. How about you?

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Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig.

Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig. – Marcus Aurelius

This fountain was dug deep, as it still works 2000 years later. Perhaps the author of the quote drank from it's good water.

This fountain was dug deep, as it still works 2000 years later. Perhaps the author of the quote drank from this good water.

What does that mean?
This quote is saying there is good within us. Each of us. Every one of us. This good could bubble up like a fountain, if only we could find it. It does imply that not everyone has their good bubbling up like a fountain. For some, it seems the well has gone dry.

However, they’ve thought of that as well. If we just dig, and keep digging, not only will we find our wellspring of goodness, but it will bubble up forever. If we are willing to keep digging until we find it. And figure out how to dig in the right places.

But that’s the problem for some, isn’t it? It takes effort to be good. Sometimes it seems much easier to be other than good, but only up front, right? Over the long run, good works out so much better, that it’s not even close. So all we have to do is keep digging, looking for the fountain of good.

Why is being, and doing, good important? Continue reading

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