Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. – Albert Einstein
What sorts of things attract you? In a crowd, how does gravity affect you?
What does that mean?
While this quote might better have been said by Sir Isaac Newton, it’s Albert that is quoted as having said it. This is one of many tongue-in-cheek saying he is famous for having said.
In this case, he is equating falling due to gravity with falling due to love. However, he also pointing out that the force of attraction in each case is quite different. I would have to agree, both with the equivalence he draws between the two forces, as well as the difference.
The quote also implies that both of these forces are undeniable forces of nature. From personal experience, I would have to agree with the quote, both in the certainty of their existence, and their undeniable and irresistible power.
One could go on for quite some time drawing parallels between physics and love, including attraction, orbits, charged particles, like charges repelling and so many others. But as always, Albert Einstein worked hard to make things as simple as possible, like this quote.
Why is attraction important?
Before one can fall in love, there usually has to be some kind of attraction. Even when there are aggravations and other forces pushing you away, there has to be an attraction driving things forward. Given enough time, and an absence of repulsing factors, falling in love is quite likely.
From my observations, it all starts with attraction. It might be something physical, or it might be a shared interest. It might be something about how they act or respond around you. It might be their attraction to you. Sometimes it’s hard to pinpoint what it is.
But it is always there, somewhere. Whether it is hiding deep down inside, or just plain obvious, it’s there. Sometimes it is multiple somethings. The only question is what that something is (or somethings are). How well do you know yourself?
Where can I apply this in my life?
Let’s start by considering what your ‘somethings’ are. What attracts you to someone else? Is it one or more physical attributes? What about their attitude? Do you look for something in their mannerisms? Is there something about a skill or ability that attracts you?
Take a moment and scan back in your memory for some of the people to whom you’ve been attracted in the past. Run through all the ‘somethings’ which were applicable for each one of them. Grab some paper and write each of your ‘somethings’ down as you think of them.
You may start to notice a pattern. Perhaps it’s redheads. Or you like the tall ones. Whatever it might be, write them down. Be sure to add people you never met, but to whom you felt an attraction. Posters, magazine articles, TV shows, or whatever other media in which you found them.
What does that tell you about yourself? If you’re like me, you probably found that a few of your ‘somethings’ were fairly superficial, and others were much more substantial. Take a moment and look at the list you have. Which are superficial and which are substantial?
Put a number from one to ten next to each ‘something’ on your list, where a one is completely superficial, and a ten is solid and substantial. When you’re done with that, look at your list again, and think of some of your longer lasting relationships and some of your shorter relationships.
Do the longer lasting ones have more of the substantial features? Are the shorter ones based largely on the superficial features? I found that to be the case in a fair number of my personal relationships. How did you fare, did you find the same general pattern?
Now that you know a little more about yourself and what attracts you to others in a substantial way, you have a better feel for what you might want to look for in someone, right? If you’re looking for something short and light, you might want to look for all the superficial things.
If you are looking for something a bit more substantial, you know what to look for as well. Just understand that this is only one small part of a relationship. However, it might help you determine where to look for someone in the first place. Ask yourself where someone with these attributes might be found, and go looking. 8)
Note that the quote says nothing about making the relationship work. That’s another matter entirely! This is just about falling in love, which is the easy part.
From: Twitter, @Quotes_on_Love
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